BY MS. ASHWINI ISHTE : 5 min read
Whether it’s an arranged marriage or a love marriage, not every marriage leads to “Happily ever after married life.” Life is full of surprises, and we can never foresee what will happen next in our lives or who will be our destine life partner.
Yes, true marriages are made in heaven. But, can anyone surely tell that love remains forever? I’m not sure, either. Because feelings are fleeting and vary on a daily basis for everyone.
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Not everyone knows what kind of person is right for them, and when we think of serious relationships, sometimes it’s hard to choose the right person for a lifetime connection. It will take some time, but I will make it as simple as possible for you. After that, it is entirely up to you to choose the best option for you.
1.Compatibility is more important than Chemistry:
Compatibility is something we call being the right fit for each other’s lives, and relationships are always built on give-take transactions. Being compatible means fulfilling each other’s needs and supporting each other in every area of life.
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Chemistry between two people no longer sustains the foundation of true relationships. It’s infatuation and a temporary connection between two people. After sexual need, both get separated.
My suggestion for you is to find a compatible partner rather than looking for chemistry in relationships and try to understand each other as a person. In order to sustain relationships for a longer period of time, figure out how well you know each other before approaching a life partner.
2.Match your vision board:
Relationships should be about complementing one another, rather than competing with each other.
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Relationships becomes more stronger and balanced when people lift each other up in their downtime and assist each other in achieving their goals. Because when one person fails, the other person fails as well, and when one person succeeds, you succeed as well. It’s like let’s support each other and grow together.
Therefore, I feel your vision must not only be to accomplish your dreams but to support each other throughout the journey.
3.Understanding:
Mutual understanding is more important, and it can be possible only when two ways of communication play a role in the exchange of thoughts.
There is no relationship that can exist without conflict. Where there are two different people with different opinions, conflict occurs. These are all conflicts of minds, not between two individuals. People don’t know that it’s not about “You Vs Me” it’s about “You and Me Vs Problem”. And I am sure that after communication, bonds will get stronger and trust issues will be sorted out in every relationship.
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Healthy relationships are built on friendships between two people, and if you are a good friend to your partner, it will be easy for you to keep a long term relationship.
4.Freedom and respect:
I have observed that after marriage, many people forget that we are independent individuals and not anyone’s property. In those relationships, overcontrolling and dominating the other person becomes the reason for separation. In order to create healthy relationships, it is vital to give each other personal space.
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The ability to talk freely and to respect each other’s priorities and viewpoints. These are important factors in forming strong bonds.
5.Sense of Humor:
More toxic relationships are those who take everything too seriously. When one’s mood is not good, then the other one should be the healer for the one. Cracking jokes is the best therapy for maintaining long-term relationships. Instead of concentrating on problems, the focus should be on resolving conflicts.
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Develop a sense of humor, which will assist you in making successful relationships. Don’t laugh at your partner; laugh with your partner instead.
6.Right expectations:
There’s a saying which goes, “Don’t expect, but accept.” Theoretically, listening to philosophy feels good, but practically it’s always next to impossible in any kind of relationship.
We are all naturally inclined to demand something in return from others, and if your expectations are realistic and appropriate, you will never be disappointed in relationships.
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Prioritize your expectations for the other person and communicate them clearly, which is, in my opinion, the best way to define the equations of successful relationships.
7.Find spark everyday:
It’s obvious that life gets monotonous after doing the same things and waking up with the same person every day. After some time, we take a person for granted and get too focused on our work life. We are unable to give time for the person and boredom sets down in relationships.
In order to maintain a spark in your relationships, it’s up to you how you balance your work life as well as your personal life, which makes a difference in your relationships.
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If you feel something about your partner, express it. No one can read your mind. Be adventurous sometimes and try new things together. Enjoy every little thing with your partner, like cooking, singing, travelling, and dancing.
Plan surprises for each other. Before you go to bed, resolve all the problems from the day, and if something upsets you, tell them. Allow each other to forgive and forget, and be open to receiving love.
Key points to remember:
- Compatibility is more important than chemistry. In order to sustain relationships for a longer period of time, figure out how well you know each other before approaching a life partner.
- Your vision should not only be to accomplish your dreams but to support each other throughout the journey. Therefore, match your vision board clearly.
- Healthy relationships are built on friendships between two people, and if you are a good friend to your partner, it will be easy for you to keep a long-term connection.
- In order to create healthy relationships, it is vital to give each other personal space and respect each other’s priorities as well as viewpoints. These are important factors in forming strong bonds.
- Cracking jokes is the best therapy for maintaining long-term relationships; being serious isn’t worth it.
- Prioritize your expectations for the other person and speak about it very clearly to them.
- In order to maintain the spark in your relationships, balance your work life as well as your personal life.